I believe that our eyes have been taught to see what is pleasing and what is not. Do you remember, in elementary school, when teachers showed you a picture and then taught you a word to associate an identity to the picture? The same thing has happened with people. Once you’ve learned this, you begin behaving as if this is “The Truth.”
We look at people and make an assessment of their worth and value immediately based on the picture, the 1% visible to the human eye.
As a result, last year people spent over 12 billion dollars under-going surgical procedures to alter their 1% to create a more attractive picture.
Last year there was over 8 billion dollars spent on make-up, again, focused on hiding perceived flaws and imperfections. Literally, photoshopping their appearance to look more attractive to the human eye.
I have observed people meeting someone for the first time and telling them how beautiful they were just based on the picture, the 1% they can see.
I am submitting that what you see with the human eye may be deceiving. I have found that the outside does not always look as good as the inside.
I have learned that it is more valuable to get to know people from the “Inside/Out.” I submit that if you come to know the inner beauty of the person, the outward picture has little value.
I have met people over the years that just because of the outward appearance, I would never have spent any time getting to know them.
After my 30 years in the people business, I can tell you that my wise grandmother was absolutely spot on when she said, “Do not judge a book by its cover. I am telling you, you’d better look at them from the inside, out.”
A lot of people hire folks based on the 1% and quickly learn that was not a good hire. Many people get into relationships, based on the 1% they can see and come to learn over time, they have NOTHING in common with that person on a deeper level at all.
Here are my 5 beauty tips on improving your attractiveness from the “Inside/Out”:
1. Start building a positive relationship with yourself. If you lose something or forget something, do not call yourself “stupid” or an “idiot”. Be your own best friend.
2. Start building more trust in the relationship you have with yourself. We are over two months into the New Year and some of you made some promises on Jan 1st and you have broken those promises. If you practice breaking promises to yourself, you will develop a habit of breaking promises to yourself. Begin again right now and keep those promises small and on a short time cycle.
3. Challenge yourself to do something new today. Get out of your comfort zone. Read a book, eat a new food, and talk to different people. Go explore and learn something new today.
4. Do something physical every day. It doesn’t matter how long or what it is, however, it should be focused on getting heathier. There are people walking around that appear to be physically fit based on how skinny they are, however, the inside may not mirror the outside.
5. Invest in your own personal development. Buy a book, take a class, and get some professional coaching. Be clear, the only way to get a return on the investment is by applying what you learned. I have had people recommend books and classes to me they read or attended and shared how awesome they were and how much they benefitted from the book or the class. I took them at their word and read the book or attended the classes and came back and asked them, did you really read that book? Did you really attend that class? Because I gained things from the book or the class that was transformative for me and I did not see an improvement in their inner attractiveness. Investing in you is the best investment you will ever make. Rather than tuning up your outside, I recommend that you focus on the inside.
Beauty, awesomeness and happiness are an inside job.
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